Acknowledge that a subject may be difficult and give the other person a choice.

The idea

Ask Would you feel comfortable talking about…? or May I ask…? Offer to change the subject.

Examples

  • Would you feel comfortable talking about the budget?
  • I hope you don’t mind me asking about your family.
  • We can change the subject if you’d rather not discuss it.
  • May I ask how the move has affected you?
  • This may be difficult to talk about, so please take your time.
  • Thank you for telling me; I won’t share it without your permission.

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Watch out

Do not assume that a polite question guarantees an answer; listen and accept a refusal.

Try it yourself

  1. Choose the tactful question: ___ I ask about the delay? (May / Must)

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    May

    May asks permission politely.

  2. Complete the offer to stop: We can ___ the subject. (change / demand)

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    change

    change offers a different subject.

  3. Choose the word that asks about comfort: Are you ___ discussing the schedule? (comfortable / certain)

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    comfortable

    comfortable checks whether the person feels at ease.

Use it today

Write a tactful question and an offer to change the subject.